Not-Fixing

One thing that distinguishes Feldenkrais from other modalities is its principle of not-fixing. However much trouble we practitioners may have with sticking to this, it is a core principle and it matters. To fix is to have an ambition, and ambition, paradoxically, can get in the way of real healing. And to fix is also, of course, a profound arrogance. I have been a mediator for 30 years, and the first time I cradled one of my fellow students' head, in the palms of my hands, I thought, as though with trumpets in the background 'ahhh, this is like all the best parts of mediation but without the bullshit.'

As a mediator, my lodestone, my bedrock, my survival, my inspiration was to NOT FIX the parties. To not solve the problem. Just to create the space within which the parties could solve their own problems, within themselves and among themselves. And that is the paradox of Body Wisdom or the best of Feldenkrais: we are creating the space for you to teach yourself. You have the answers inside yourself. Your own teacher knows one billion times more about what you need than I do. And, perhaps most importantly, it knows/you know the when of your healing and even the how of your healing. Perhaps my best role is simply to flirt a bit with your inner teacher, to remind it how much fun learning can be.